Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts

Sunday, December 26, 2021

Hummingbirds in December!

My sister Tricia wrote the following:  "There are so many things that remind me often of my Grandma Cross, but my sister and hummingbirds are two very important ones!

Grandma would be shocked and thrilled, as we are, to see hummingbirds at this time of year and in this cold. She would also be proud of us for defrosting the feeders and providing them with food (even if Jen didn’t use her formula for it😳) Jen, just like Grandma did so often, is getting her afternoon enjoyment from sitting and watching the hummingbirds 😊 The cat has joined her but has a different agenda!"






Friday, July 9, 2021

Cherry Picking


A visit with Les' parents and we decided to do some cherry picking at Tasty Acres in Salmon Arm. Yummy!!!!! 


Guess whose bucket was 4lbs and whose was 2lbs?!

Friday, June 18, 2021

Gender Dysphoria

Gender dysphoria was once described to me as the following, ‘looking in the mirror most people are fine with what they see, maybe a little grumbling…. but what if you woke up one morning and suddenly you see yourself as a different sex - you have body parts you should not have.  You would panic. You would wonder what is wrong? Why is the outside not matching the inside?! Someone with gender dysphoria experiences this every. single. day.’ 

A person with gender dysphoria is constantly working on different strategies to help them ease their dysphoria. It can be debilitating, some need to transition, attempted suicide and suicide is high.  

NOBODY would choose this.

We need caring teachers, friends, church family, and extended family who see beyond their gender identity.  We need to show love and kindness. How can we do this?  Use their preferred name and pronouns. 

My village will always be accepting, loving and kind to all.




Saturday, June 5, 2021

Parenthood - LGBTQ Support

 Parents have been shamed for loving unconditionally and parents have been praised for disowning their children. I don’t understand. I do understand this. I’m very grateful my children know they are loved and that our home will always be a safe place for them. Love is love. Far too many of our LGBTQ children don’t have that. I hope any LGBTQ child I interact with knows I’m an ally.




Tuesday, July 31, 2018

The World of Science is AMAZING

Being diagnosed with Lynch Syndrome four years ago I'm still in pretty regular contact with the Hereditary Dept at the Cancer Agency. Now that I think about it, I don't know that I've really ever mentioned this diagnoses.......

2 years after being diagnosed with uterine cancer the Hereditary Dept from the Cancer Agency contacted me to let me know that they were now testing anyone that got uterine cancer under the age of 50 for Lynch Syndrome, a hereditary disorder caused by a mutation which individuals have a higher than normal chance of developing certain cancers often more aggressive and often at younger ages. Yes, uterine cancer being one of them.

My Genetic Counsellor really didn't think that I had it just from looking over what we had on file but I said yes and after testing my tumor sure enough the results (after waiting nearly a year) came back showing the mutation genes in MSH6 and MSH2, two of four deletions that are responsible for Lynch Syndrome.

From that point on I have had and will have for the rest of my life annual screening for colorectal cancer (those with Lynch syndrome carry up to an 85% risk of contracting colon cancer). I've already had a hysterectomy due to the uterine cancer but I have bi-annual screening of my ovaries (those were removed on July 9th so that testing is no longer needed).

The tricky part to all of this is the fact that once I was diagnosed it was time to find it in my DNA. Being as it's a hereditary disorder I have a 50% chance of getting from either my mother or father (from the history we've been able to put together we're guessing my mothers line). After two tries both tests came back inconclusive. It was decided that until the wonders of science had more to offer to test all of the Lynch Syndrome genes (currently only had MSH6 tested) we weren't going to get any further.

Fast forward 4 years and I found out at the beginning of the year that there was a possibility that more testing is available for me. On July 4th my sister, Tricia and I met with my Genetic Counsellor to go over my file and family history. In the end I was offered a 68 gene panel testing (wow!) with results in less than 5 weeks. Now remember 4 years ago there was only 1 gene panel available for me and took 6 months for results. The world of science is AMAZING!!

July 31st I had my result given to me over the phone. ALL 68 genes negative. WHAT????? This means that there is no hereditary mutation showing up in my DNA, which is fantastic news for my children, siblings and parents. However, what does this mean? The Genetic Counsellor is now going to request that my tumor be retested so we have two fresh tests to compare (DNA & tumor). Apparently there is a possibility that the tumor created the MMR (mismatch repair gene).

Currently I'm waiting for the thumbs up from the Hereditary Dept that they'll test the tumor. Once that's done we wait again for results. What are the chances that the tumor will do this? 5%. Seriously, I'm one of the 5%?! This still doesn't give my family the clear. We have to wait for the test results. If my tumor still indicates Lynch Syndrome it will no longer me a hereditary disorder where family will have a possibility of a higher chance of developing cancer but they aren't in the norm either but the middle ground. We'll learn more of what exactly that means as more data comes in. So for now everyone is still being treated as though they could have Lynch Syndrome.

Makes me wonder what science will discover in another 5 years!!

Wednesday, November 1, 2017

Halloween 2017

What happens when you work in an Elementary School on Halloween.....

Jen the Rain Cloud


We like to be different!!



The pumpkin carving was done by our Japanese Exchange, Mr. Minoru Akagi.....pretty impressive for a 1st time even with the upside down look.  The watermelon carving was completed by Eli.

Sunday, July 2, 2017

Birthday/Retirement Celebrations



My sister and I had a chance to join in with the celebrations of Jack & Donna's 65th Birthday and Retirement.  A fun girls weekend on the island visiting friends and family!



Jennifer, Jack, Tricia

Sunday, May 14, 2017

GVYMA Presents: ELEMENTS Music of Magic & Humanity


GVYMA never disappoints!  An amazing show with such talented youth. Especially exciting for Adrianna and Eli to have so much family in the audience.  Grandma and Grandpa Haddad, Auntie Trish, Uncle Mike and his whole family and last but not least Les and I.  

THANK YOU for supporting them!

Monday, December 12, 2016

GVYMA Presents: Molto Tutti - Around The World In 80 Minutes



Last night we had the opportunity to attend the GVYMA concert where both Adrianna and Eli were among the performers.  Such a fantastic night of music!  Between the two ensembles (Symphonic Wind Ensemble and Concert Winds Ensemble) the ages ranged from 10 to 19 and what hard working, talented musicians they all are.  Their conductor, Nina Falcos, constantly emphasized how much of a family unit this group is and it truly showed tonight.  Looking forward to seeing these ensembles perform again in the spring!

Adrianna is a Symphonic Wind Ensemble member and is a Jr. Coach for the Concert Winds Ensemble so she actually performs in both groups.  Eli is a Concert Winds Ensemble member.

Friday, July 29, 2016

Melt Your Heart Kinda Moment


Yesterday I was resting my leg with an aircast at a store while Adrianna and Tricia continued shopping and two random ladies left soon returning handing me this bouquet of flowers. Had the whole store in ahhh's at the sure kindness of strangers reaching out to a stranger. Melt your heart moment!

Tuesday, August 18, 2015

It Never Goes Away. Ever.

A friends loved one past away this summer from cancer.  A family members teenage son was diagnosed with cancer this summer and a senior gentleman I work with was recently diagnosed with not one but two cancers this summer.

It never goes away.  Ever.

Tuesday, July 14, 2015

First Driving Lesson


While we were getting Adrianna settled into her summer job Eli was doing a first as well!

His first driving lesson ever on the tractor while cutting grandpa's grass in the back field (also a first). He's all prepared to do it again when it's time to pick his sister up in September!

On another note the farm that can be seen way in back - that's where Adrianna is working.




Tuesday, August 26, 2014

Why the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge?

My lovely sister Tricia nominated me for the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge yesterday.  I really admire Trish.  She is constantly involved in something to help promote awareness to various charities.  My favourite being the time she shaved her head for cancer (on my behalf).  So, when she nominated me to dump a bucket of ice water on my head to help bring awareness to ALS how could I refuse? If you must, watch video below! I have to admit my first reaction was that I wanted to strangle her!


I have to process things and because of that spontaneity doesn't come easily (yes, 24 hours notice is still spontaneity in my world).  Learning a bit more about the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge I learned more about the challenge, people's reactions to the challenge and about ALS itself.  
  1. Once you are nominated you have to participate by either donating or dumping ice over your head within 24 hours (does that mean from the time the person that nominated you completes the challenge or from the time that you learn you've been nominated?).
  2. The water must be ½ ice ½ water. Not water alone (I get it).
  3.  In one continuous video you mention what you are doing, who you are donating to, who nominated you and who you will nominate (in my nervousness I only said ice bucket challenge not ALS ice bucket challenge.  Oops but I did mention ALS at the end so am I redeemed?).
  4. You are to nominate 3 people (I only nominated 2 people - Adrianna Haddad and Tamsen Keyes.  Mostly because I know how much I hate having something thrown at me that I'm not very comfortable with).
  5. You must post the video to a social media site (really really don't want a video of me on a social media site but fine I'll do it for the promotion of awareness).
Why?  It wasn't hard to make the decision to participate due to family experience with ALS (it always seems easier when there is a personal connection).  One of my grandfathers was diagnosed with ALS but at the time was known as Lou Gehrig's Disease.  I was young but I do remember visiting him and seeing what this horrible disease did to him - eventually taking his life.

Will I donate?  No.  I think this is a personal matter we all face when it comes to the many charities in our midst.  I'm all for promoting awareness for a number of charities but won't necessarily donate.  I've been diagnosed with cancer twice and this past winter was diagnosed with a hereditary gene mutation that puts me in a MUCH higher risk of getting more cancers (has included processing, worrying and the needed screenings for the remainder of my life).  For obvious reasons cancer is my main choice of charity.  For my future and my families future.  I won't judge you for your choice so I expect the same respect.

Really a bucket of ice water?  It seems in our judgementing world where ever there is a positive there is bound to be a negative and this is no exception.  However, I wonder why?  I mean really!  Look around us and at all the charities.  There is always something that stands out to help promote awareness......shaving heads, walking, dancing, growing moustaches, adopting pets, food, bracelets, chocolate bars, running, adopting an orphan, bike rides and the list goes on.  Sure there are some people out there that think this particular challenge is just about following the crowd and joining in on the mass media but I like to look at it as a fun way to promote awareness to something that is very debilitating and few know about.  Clearly it's working.  Look at the amount of money this year alone this charity has managed to raise and how many of you knew nothing about ALS but now do.  

In the end, if me dumping a bucket of ice water on my head does nothing but make the reader aware of the disease is that not better than nothing at all?  Honestly, I hadn't thought of ALS for a long time.  Until the ice bucket challenge.  So why not?

I look forward to seeing my nominees videos Tamsen Keyes and Adrianna Haddad!


http://www.als.ca/en

Sunday, July 20, 2014

5 Siblings, 3 Spouses & 10 Sweet Children

We been fortunate this weekend to have my sister Tamsen and her family in town visiting from Minnesota. (SO looking forward to their move in the spring which will mean we'll all back living in the same province after all these years!!)

This meant a weekend of family!  Last night was adult time - dinner out while the kids hung out at the house. Glad to report both parties had lots of fun together!  Today was spent visiting, playing, bowling, eating, visiting, eating, playing..... you get the picture.

Speaking of pictures we did get some.......



Thursday, June 19, 2014

A 'Wicked' Night Out

I'll tell you as I get older it seems harder to keep friends in the same town.  It seems everyones lives are ever changing and due to what is best for our families somebody always seems to be relocating.  However, I'm so grateful for the friendships that have continued to blossom even if there are hundreds or thousands of miles between us.

This week has been so much fun having Kris in town visiting. We've had late night chatting and will have shopping across the border in a couple days.  However, today was a fantastic day spent in Vancouver shopping on Granville Island, driving through Stanley Park, a dinner full of laughs then ending the evening with a fantastic production of Wicked!  


Kristine, Jennifer, Tricia and Adrianna
Hooray for technology and transportation that help make these friendships lasting!!


Monday, February 24, 2014

A Dramatic Change

Yesterday I got together with my sister Trish to do hair.  A dramatic change transpired.....


I remember as a teen wanting to dye my hair black but my mother was pretty adamant that wasn't going to happen.  I listened.  Then I hit a stage where I thought it was ridiculous anyone would want to make changes to their hair.  That opinion stuck  around for a long time.  Years later I got cancer and chemo treatment caused me to lose all my hair, it grew back with no vibrance. Just a mousy color.  Hair treatment suddenly became an interest!  Always subtle but yesterday something made me be spontaneous (so not me) and I jumped in with both feet with a little encouraging nudge from my sister of course!

What I learned....maybe when doing such a dramatic change I should inform my family ahead of time!

Thursday, December 20, 2012

Christmas & Kittens

My poor, poor tree....the cats now just take a flying leap at it. No sense wasting time climbing up the centre I guess!!




Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Speechless & Tearful

I still can't say thank you without the tears showing up.  THANK YOU!!
Here's to Jen Haddad - BC Cancer Foundation (click on link and you'll understand)


Friday, August 31, 2012

Memories.... August

AUGUST started with the kids being out of school for about a week doing lots of fun activities when I was hit with one of the worst chest colds I've had in a long time.  Bronchitis in August - YUCK!  Well medicated with a horribly barky voice and cough we packed up and headed to Clearwater for a Smith Family Reunion (Les's mom's side of the family).  

We were the 'red' family!  Back row:  Les, Jen, Martie.  Front Row:  Adrianna, Russ, Eli
After that it was off to Salmon Arm to spend a couple days with Les's parents....

Adrianna & Eli at the water slide 

Revelstoke Railway Museum
Left to Right:  Russ, Jen, Eli, Adrianna & Les

Time to head back home where later in the month the kids and I with Auntie Trish headed to the PNE for a fun filled day....








Just before having to head back music camp was attended!!  This will be Eli's first year participating in the school band program so he attended a week long beginner music camp.  He had lots of fun and is ready to start classes!  Adrianna took part in a junior concert band camp but I guess pictures weren't taken??  

Sorry for such a dark picture....can you spot Eli and the instrument he's playing????
It seems September is just around the corner and we just might be ready for all the upcoming changes!!!